Wednesday, October 11, 2006
I have a painful post of which I will get to later, but before I go any further, I must say a few words about my previous post.
First of all, I appreciate all the support(?) and opinions that have flooded in on the topic. 60+ comments is insane and from now on, if I don't get 60+ comments, I will be bitterly dissapointed.
But I think a lot of people misinterpreted me. The point of the post was to state my opinion on the subject, provide argument fodder via the study and see what everyone else had to say. Which is basically what happened. But...
Some people took it to mean that my boyfriend is pressuring me to move in with him. That's an unfair and gross generelization on his behalf.
My boyfriend is not pressuring me to move in with him. In fact, he hasn't asked (and after this, probably never will haha) and we have never discussed living with each other. The only thing we have discussed is our differing opinions on the subject. To put into context, we have only been going out for about 8 or 9 months, and different views aside, we both know that moving in together is something that won't be discussed in any serious way for a very long time. The whole moving in together thing is a very big step to make if you have only been together a short amount of time. Plus, there is the fact that A) he would not ask me to move in with him since he has a roomate, lives in New Westminster and I just bought my own apartment, in downtown Vancouver, and have a mortgage to pay. And B) I would not ask him to move in with me (not only because of what I believe), my apartment barely has enough room for my clothes and he has a cat and my apartment does not allow pets. And don't be so naive as to think he would get rid of the cat. He would sooner get rid of me.
So there you go. Again, thank's for your support and it's nice to know that one day if the subject ever does come up, I will know what you think about the whole thing and to know that I am not alone. Most of the comments have been very nice, more than generous and I LOVE hearing everyone's conflicting and torn opnions on this volatile subject. Keep it up, this is what free speech and blogs are all about!
In the meantime, we are both very happy in our lives as it is and are eager to keep it this way. As for the pity posts from people worried that I will never get married because of this, all I have to say is this: what makes you think I wanted to get married anyway?
Anyway, if you have a particular view on the subject, still feel free to comment on the post below...let's see if we can get it up to 69!