Thursday, November 02, 2006

Another gem from MSN: Jealousy and the sexes

If you've visited your hotmail account today (and if you live in the non-GMail Dark Ages, like I do) you may have noticed today's little nugget for thought. I swear, I don't know what MSN is trying to do, but every other day it seems to come up with some "research" on one subject or another. Though most I find annoying ("7 Reasons Women Cheat", "Is your date super?"), this I thought might have some truth. Then again, it might not.

Jealousy: Is is the same for both men and women?

There are two different views about the both the origins of jealousy and the different ways men and women experience jealousy. One school of thought is that jealousy is an adaptive evolutionary mechanism. Researchers in this camp have found that men tend to be more jealous about sexual infidelity, whereas women are more disturbed by emotional infidelity. Their reasoning is that men needed to know that their efforts to feed and protect their mates actually propagated their genes and not some other man’s. Women, on the other hand, needed to hold onto a man’s emotional love in order to be fed, protected, and sheltered.

Another group of researchers found that culture had more of an influence on jealous behavior than evolutionary needs. They concluded that men and women tend to become most jealous over sexual infidelity, but they think that both of their jealousies are far more influenced by societal and family experience than by survival of the species.

See, I have a hard time believing there is a real difference, but I'm not a guy so I can't say for sure. But to imply that women don't get jealous over sexual infidelity is crap, as might be assuming that a man wouldn't mind so much if his wife was in love with another.

The article then went on to talk about what kind of people get jealous. The insecure ones, they say, are most likely to, as are the ones who have been cheated on the past.

Yes, well, that's kind of a given. But I know plenty of perfectly secure people who have never been cheated on who get riled up by the "green monster." What does that say then? That jealousy is just part of human nature? Sure, but then there are people who claim to "never get jealous."

I hate those people.


Fantabulous Brit said...

I always thought I was a little odd for feeling this way, but personally I would be more upset if my man shagged another chick than if he had actual feelings for her. What does that say about me?

Anonymous said...

I would say thats cuase its easier to imagine your dude getting it on with some random ho than him actually falling for one. Cause we are taught that men are horny and heartless bastards, right?

I do say its completely human nature but look at animals too! they get jelous! My dogs totally hate it if I give attention to one more than the other.

Katy Keene said...

Fuck MSN. I hate their little pieces of crap. It never ceases to piss me off everytime I check my mail.

somethinglikebradshaw said...

I'm with Katy Keen on this one. MSN always reels me in and in the end I start analyzing my own life against their "topic". I wonder who the people are that have to write for MSN anyways. "Julie, today it's your turn to make people insecure and re-evaluate their life/relationship/health/sanity."

Indiana said...

People who say they have never felt jealous are lying...ebvy is a form of jealousy and everyone has felt envy.

Janellerific said...

What exactly IS Gmail anyways? Is it like an orgasm?

Traveling Chica said...

Do you believe the people who say they never get jealous? I think that there is someone or some situation out there that can get ANYONE jealous. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's my personal thought on the subject.

Wanderlusting said...

Brit ~ I think that's natural. Either idea isn't much fun.

Bradshaw ~ I know, why isn't it ever good news?

Indiana ~ Very true.

Janelle ~ I dunno, but that may explain why I don't have it.

Chica ~ Yeah part of me doesn't believe it and then part of me thinks that maybe there is something wrong with me for being jealous and they are the ones who are right.

Janellerific said...

Hahaha...oooooooh you crack me up.

M said...

Yeah, I hate those people too!

(LOVE that Anne Taintor art. My bro bought me a calendar, coffee mug, notepad and book of her stuff one year. I was like "whoa" and he said that it reminded him of me. heh. I'll take that as a compliment...I think).