Thursday, September 24, 2009

How I make menswear more feminine + how to change your life

I've been inspired by the impossibly gorgeous girls on Stockholm Street Style and the ways that they effortlessly combine menswear pieces - such as their boyfriend's shirts, shoes and jackets - into their wardrobe without losing an ounce of their inate Nordic sexiness.

I've gotten into the bad (but comfortable) habit of wearing a tank top, flare jeans, platform heels and a blazer to work everyday this week, but decided to just make it a little more special wearing the Tuxedo jacket I wore on New Years Eve (remember, I wore a tux instead of a dress? no? Well here it is again).

A fat cat wearing a hat, screenprint shirt added a touch of whimsy.

Tux: H&M;
Shirt: salt spring island market stand;
Jeans: Guess;
Bag: Mango MNG;
Sunglasses: Marc Jacobs

The next day I decided to branch out a bit, still keeping with the menswear theme. Ahhh, I love my bf's shirt collection. Just really trying not to get lipstick on the collar, as I do.

Shirt: my boyfriends;
Dress and belt: Forever 21;
Necklace: Paraphenalia;
Bag: Miele Bianco;
Sunglasses: Marc Jacobs;
Boots: See by Chloe

Oh and I should probably declare this publicly now, but in order to "change my life" I am facing my habits/trying to create new ones head on. According to, the best way to go about doing so is to:

A) focus on ONE habit for 30 days

B) think positively

C) set a routine to deal with your new habit and pick one of the four times: when you get up, before you go to work, after you work and before you go to bed BECAUSE no matter your schedule, everyone (almost) has to get up at some point and work at some point

D) exercise (because it creates discipline which you need, energy which you need to accomplish your goals and creates positive thinking (think about it, you NEED to think positive while exercising in order to actually keep one foot in front of the other)

and B) publicly declare your intentions.

So here I am. I have 12-15 goals to complete over the next year, focusing on one for 30 days until it becomes a habit and in most cases continuing that habit throughout the year but shifting my focus to something else for 30 days. Sometimes it will be small things, like "Not wearing any makeup for 30 days" and "paying someone a compliment everyday for 30 days" in which I will do both, other times it will be something bigger like having sex every day for 30 days :P

My current goal for 30 days: write for 30 minutes everyday and excercise for 30 minutes every day. I can write anything to do with my novel or my screenplay and I can excercise anyway I want, whether it be a half hour walk, lifting weights or going for a run.

Both these things are HUGE deals for me but I figure excercise is something that I would have to do anyway to make my writing goal stick - they go hand in hand (excercising helps me think and be creative).

Anyway, these are my intentions. I got up at 6AM this morning to write and write I did. I never thought the mornings would be a good time for writing because my brain doesn't work but you know what???? It actually works BEST because I am writing instinctively - my brain doesn't have the energy to overanalyze and overthink because, well, it's half asleep, and that's the biggest sabotage with my writing - overthinking it in my head and not on paper. I never woulda thunk it!

Here's to the next 30 days....


Couture Carrie said...

Love your advice and outfits! My fave pieces are the blazer and those fab red boots!


arbyn said...

Good luck with the 30 days thing. I think it's a great idea, and a great way to think about goal setting (finish line in site... switching things up every month...) but are you going to stick with the new habits after the 30 days or are you just going to move on to the next one?

A bit daunting if you're implementing 12 new habits into your daily routine I'd think.

Wanderlusting said...

As I stated, I am not sticking with all habits (for example if I were to give up drinking for a month or Facebook for a month - which ironically I am doing right now but is not really part of this 30 day regime - I would still go back to drinking and using Facebook, just maybe on a lesser scale).

As for it being daunting I will have to disagree with you. I am the first person to back out if things are too daunting and I don't think this is at all.

For example, I need to start flossing and using a flouride mouthwash twice a day - that is a habit I wish to keep afterwards. Keeping a gratitude journal - that is a habit I would wish to keep, even it just amounted to writing in it once a week.

Just because you are doing something everyday for 30 days, doesn't mean you have to OR SHOULD continue doing it everyday afterwards...just as long as you still do it.

Exercising everyday for 30 days is doable - hopefully after that, it becomes a habit enough so that you do it most days of the week.

issa said...

love both outfits!! i have a few mens shirts i wear regularly.. and blazers.. of course!

MizzJ said...

What a cool idea! I love it when people take on these creative ventures. The 2nd outfit is utterly bad ass!

janettaylor said...

Great outfits! Die for Ur See by Chloe boots!


Fashion Cappuccino said...

I love both of your outfits!! Those red boots are so awesome! It's hard to make a new habit and stick to it but I'm making a commitment to work at everyday at 5:30 no matter what. That's the only routine I have for now but I'm thinking of adding eating breakfast every morning, eat fish more than once every week and improve my photo taking skills...xxooxxoo

The Seeker said...

Love both outfits #2 inspired me... :)
Good luck with the 30 days things.


Lily G. said...

Love your outfits. I have a blazer just like the one in the first picture, even the pinstripes! But mine's by necessary objects.

freeteyme said...

those red boots reminded me of the song "these Boots are made for walking" - so fierce and fab!

OceanDreams said...

I love those red boots, how amazing! Also, I love how you paired your BF's shirt over your dress, what a great combo!

Good luck with your goals, I know you can do it. Exercise is certainly something that pays off. Do you like to run? Maybe you could do a 5k or something like it to help set your goal more. Yay!

Wanderlusting said...

Ocean Dreams - I'm not sure if you used to read my blog while I was training for a 10K earlier this year but basically my body is not built to run due to my disability. Though I have plans to the same 10k again next year, races are otherwise not in my future.

I do run though, about 3 x a week but it is something I will never be good at.

mom & son said...

both outfits are beautiful.
but the 2nd outfit with the red boots and red belt is my fave among the 2.
the boots are awesome!

Kristin said...

You can do it! I really need to sit down and set some goals for myself too. Love the red boots!

pretty*pink*rat said...

Ugh I need to work on the 30 days of exercise...

Love that second outfit so much! The pops of red are so glam. I would never think to put a menswear shirt over a dress like that. The first is so awesome too. Love how you paired the casual tee with the tux jacket.

You're a fashion GENIUS!

Fashion Pix said...

You look great in both outfits! And I just saw the pictures of your NYE and you look stunning in a tux!!

Rachel said...

what a good idea. i can imagine a lot can change within you for those 30 days.

i might have to get me into that!

by the way, i love your boyfriend themed outfits a lot!

Anonymous said...

I just wanted to leave a note to let you know that I really enjoy reading your blog and I like how real you are. I can totally understand what you are going through as I can get down on life every once in a while too. Just stay positive and once you start meeting those goals, I think you'll start to feel like yourself again!

daisychain said...

You rock the menswear, your red boots are utterly divine.

Best of luck with the 30 days, I ought to think about trying it..

Georgia said...

The blazer and the red great. Love reading your blog
It would be mine

OceanDreams said...

Just saw your response. Glad you run sometimes, good job for running even though you have your disability. I do remember reading that before, sorry I forgot for the moment! Hope your 10K goes well for you darlin!