Friday, July 14, 2006
The only thing that is certain in life.....
.....is that nothing is certain. We all think sometimes that we have life figured out, that we take things for granted and can see what's down the line. But we can't. We can't even come close.
A friend of mine asked me a while back about her boyfriend, who she has been with for a while.
"I don't know if he is 'the one.' Do we ever really know if he is the one?"
I know there are some smug couples out there who would love to jump up and say, "Yes, I know it. He is the one. We are meant to be. We are proof of that."
How is being with him at this moment, proof of anything? All it proves is that you aren't dead yet. You may have something true and solid right now, but what happens tomorrow when he wakes up and realizes he doesn't love you anymore? When you take a job overseas? When one day you screw up bigtime over something stupid and never get what you had back? The truth is, we can never know anything. We can't see down the line to the future. Not to next year, to next month or to the next minute. I could drop dead while writing this blog for all I know (and I know that might please one or two of you).
If life is a series of events, that bring us to this moment, to right now...then there is no saying where we are going tomorrow. I don't know if I will still have a boyfriend. I don't know if I will still have a job. I don't know that my apartment isn't going to burn down, that my parents won't get divorced, that my dog wont die, that I wont get sick. I don't know any of this and neither do you.
And that's life. It sucks sometimes. It's human nature to want to know what is going to happen next. We are all curious, answer-seeking people who want to take comfort in knowing what the future will bring them. Why do you think we go to psychics, or church or take quizzes on the web called "Is your relationship meant to last?" We all want to believe that everything will be all right.
And everything will be all right, as long as you accept that your life and everything you hold dear could change at any given moment and all that you take for granted can be swept out from under you. Accept it, take a leap of faith and just believe that at this moment you are exactly where you are meant to be. For better or for worse.
The only thing that we know is that we don't know anything.
But then, what do I know?