Monday, May 28, 2007

Dos and Donts of this week

I can learn a lot in seven days...

DON'T think you'll never have to learn what the receptionist does because she says she never gets sick and therefore the chances of having to sub for her for the day are nill. Because one day, she will get sick and you will freak the fuck out because you have no idea how to do shipping.

DON'T go on dates with guys thinking that just because you say you got out of a serious relationship they'll know it means you just want to be friends. They don't want to be just friends. They just want to do you - or worse - want an actual relationship. You have only yourself to blame when you freak the fuck out and run for the hills because you can't handle any more complications in your life.

DO trust your instinct. If there is something about a guy that is off-putting and makes you feel uneasy - even if you cant place it - go with it. Chances are there is a reason for your intuition and you don't want to stick around to find out.

DON'T start your night by saying, "hey I haven't been drunk for a long time." You will get very, very drunk.

DON'T get very very drunk when you are still mourning over a past relationship. You will end up walking home alone at 3 AM and crying your eyes out to all the bums and drag queens on Davie St. They will provide very limited comfort.

DO be glad you deleted your ex's number from your phone otherwise you would have drunk dialed him and told him how much you still miss and love him instead of telling the random bums and drag queens.

DO realize how vulnerable you still are and that despite your troubles, you are still you and your morals have not changed. DON'T try to be something that you are not and don't put yourself in situations that expose your vulnerability - protect yourself.

DO accept the fact that your family is your family and there ain't a thing you can do about that. They won't change. Accept it.

DON'T drink and Facebook. No good can come of it.

DO make plans with those people from elementary school that you haven't seen in 20 years but realize that 20 years is a long time and once the novelty wears off, you most likely have nothing in common with these people. You CAN have too many friends sometimes.

DO realize that some people just can't grow plants.

DON'T miss the season finale of LOST. You will kick yourself afterwards, especially when you discover your computer is too slow to download it and you may have to go the whole summer without knowing what happened.

DON'T stop eating in general just becuse you've found it's the quickest way to drop 5 pounds. One day, you will get hungry again.

DO start eating breakfast again. A morning jog followed by not eating till lunch is not healthy.

DON'T wear hair extensions that are in bad condition. You have very lovely, soft hair - you don't need a rat's nest of crap to muddle it up.

DON'T blog about work too much because there is always a small chance that someone you work with could stumble across your blog. Hasn't happened yet but I wouldn't be surprised.

DON'T bitch about your work - and a certain executive - to a fellow blogger while in Starbucks because you never know if that said executive is actually at the counter ordering a drink.

DO pretend you don't see him and steer the conversation elsewhere as quickly as possible. Do breathe a large sigh of relief when you realize that he has only been at the counter for a few minutes and for the last few minutes you have been talking about relationships and NOT work.

DO keep busy and have lots of fun-filled days with tons of different friends. But remember to make time for yourself as well.

DO feel accomplished for giving up coffee, soda and binge drinking for a month - especially at a time that would more than warrant it. Extra kudos for going for jogs at 630 AM.

DON'T start drinking coffee again if you hate it. Caffeine is good if badly needed - otherwise drink things you enjoy. Like Matcha Tea Lattes. Yum.

DO feel a bit nervous at the fact that an 18-year old boy will be living in your one-room apartment with you for a few weeks.

DON'T get drunk around the 18-year old boy.

DO realize that you are still gonna have good days and bad days and when the good days start to outnumber the bad days, you know you are on the right track to healing. Also remember that time is a bitch.

DON'T underestimate the power of forgiveness. It doesn't mean you are weak, it means that you realize how unhealthy it is to hold a grudge. You don't have to forget, but you can forgive.

DON'T ever apologize for being you.

DON'T beat yourself up for telling everyone that you are doing OK - and believing it - only to find yourself crying later. Crying is good. Let it out and move on.

DO be proud of yourself for getting through four weeks of a broken heart. Yes there will be more weeks to come - but you've survived this far.

DO plan on making June - and the following months - the best months ever. Respectfully close the lid on May, accept it for what it was and don't look back.


Eileen Dover said...

You're on the right track.

Scotty said...

DON'T ever apologize for being you.
That was my favorite

Karinaxoxo said...

Your awesome...well said gal!

Todd said...

That's one heck of an action shot! I love it! Who took that?

brandy said...

Sounds like things are improving! As for the drunk facebooking, thanks for the reminder. It hasn't happened yet but I'm so scared that after a night on the patio I will think it's a good idea. I think computers should come with breathalyzers- at least mine should.

Indiana said...

Sounds like it was a learning month...thats not a bad thing, and here's hoping that next month is more of a doing month.

Nice list.

lenfercestlesautres said...

That's a hell of a lot of things! And we can learn something from it too...

What's the story about the 18-year-old?

Rachel said...

wow you are going through some stuff. well done for keeping it so together!

oh, and i feel you on the drunk facebooking. SOOO not a good idea.

Neily said...

You missed a doozy of a Lost episode! Wanna know what happened?

minijonb said...

Here's to June! Cheers!

:clinking noise of glasses:

Tawcan said...

That's a lot of Do's and Don't Do's. Definitely don't get drunk around an 18 year old boy. What's the story behind that anyway?

Yes make June the best month! :)

Sipwine said...

This reminded me of the song Everybody's Free (to wear sunscreen).

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.

You are NOT as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sean said...

holy personal growth batman!

Markbnj said...

wow. I don't know what to say.

TV sucks the mind out of us.

You're still young..

and all teenaged boys have fantasies of older women.

(and lots of older women actually seem to like to do that...)


The Stormin Mormon said...

First off, you are on the right track.

Secondly, good call on the Mikes Crisp Apple.

And last but not least, I also love lamp... ;-)

Heather said...

I just came across your blog through anothers blogroll. I really enjoyed this post!!! So true! :)

Farrell said...

"don't drink and do facebook" was my fav.
Good lessons. Hard lessons, but wise.

Markbnj said...


We're ALL waiting for the
(it MUST be good!) story
about the 18yr old
and our FAVORITE older woman!!!

so bring us up to date,

and did you pass the receptionist test???

Oh, and my wife (an office manager too)
said you always need to be able to take over ANY job in the office...

so much for advice.


Dahna said...

mmm... there are a few stories there that need elaborating on. (Particularly the 18 year old.) Stop teasing us!!

M said...

words to live by Ms Lusty ;)

Vegas Princess said...

This is great advice for us all and you are well on your way to a wonderful life if you live by this creedo.

Lilac Stripe said...

lovely post! Hope things are getting easier.

Wanderlusting said...

Everyone - Thanks for the support guys! I guess we all learn our lessons as they come - then forget the past, look to the future and have faith in what will be.

PS What's all this interest about the 18-year old boy? You all have dirty, dirty minds! He hasn't come into the picture yet...

Markbnj said...

You're right. I'm a (almost 50) year old *B*O*Y* (bet you never knew that girls grow up to be women, but boys bodies mature, but we'll always be.....Boys!!!!)

And ALL boys know that the "Mrs. Robinson" effect (older women) has been around way before the 1968 Dustin Hoffman movie, The Graduate...

And you didn't elaborate, so we MAY have PRE-SUMED (Ass-u-me-d) that you might actually be INTERESTED in this (possibly HOT) 18Year old.

And although most "older women", looking for younger "studs" are in their 30's, you never know.

OK... I proclaim Lusty pure and virginal (in regards to this potentially hot 18yr old).heh heh...
Mark brown in NJ

Rosanna said...

DON'T drink and Facebook. No good can come of it.